Bad Family Values – Feminist Version

In a Jezebel article on Why Men Vote Republican, Hugo Schwyzer wrote:

Conservative Republican appeals to men are filled with nostalgia for an era when women could not afford to be as choosy as they seem to be today. The historian-turned-gadfly-candidate Newt Gingrich rarely misses an opportunity to point out that, since the 1960s, liberals have carefully substituted the state for the husband in the lives of American women. Strong public institutions (as well as contraception and access to abortion) reduced women’s dependency on men. As women gained greater autonomy, they no longer felt as compelled to settle for unhappy or abusive marriages. In the traditionalist imagination, this liberation led to abortion, divorce, and promiscuity.

The end result of women’s emancipation has been, as conservatives like Charles Murray and Mary Eberstadt have argued, the psychological dislocation of American men. Raised to be “good providers,” young men cannot possibly compete with a “Leviathan” state that provides far more to women and children. The much-exaggerated contemporary masculinity crisis is the inevitable consequence of robbing men of their natural and primary source of self-esteem, the ability to provide for their families.

It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out that more men than women vote Republican in this country for this very reason. Whether they are able to articulate it or not, I suspect a great many men sense that the weaker the state, the more dependent women become upon them. 

My reply:

As a liberal and former encamper at an Occupy group… This is all true. But I find it remarkable that honest liberals, like Mr. Schwyzer, do not consider it a real problem.

When I was growing up, the “Welfare Queen” theory was a hot topic. An utterly classist, misogynistic rationalization for withdrawing much-needed financial support from unwed mothers.

But in fact as an adult I’ve talked to Those People while waiting to apply for food stamps. It really is a lifestyle decision. Girls in the projects grow up, very often, intending to be professional, state-financed mothers, just as some good girls from Middle America grow up wanting to be housewives. Continue reading

Secret Service Agents Hire HOOKERS??

Can someone explain this to me? “I am shocked and appalled at discovering secret service agents HIRE HOOKERS.” (Never spoken: “…for politicians.”)

Why will the news never say the Emperor has no clothes?

Then, on The Diane Rehm Show, the big question is: “Could cops and military men hire hookers too??”

Since when is the American public a 1850s school marm?

Is the culture of force that we find in police and military men that unspeakable?

Easter Conversation w/ the Boys (a couple Easters ago)

One Easter, I was having breakfast with a small crowd of guys in a restaurant.  The only thing we had in common was that we all liked girls.  The youngest one of us, who was very good at getting girls, had explained this alone hadn’t made him happier.  He had, in the past, nevertheless been suicidal.

He and his friend overwhelmed the conversation, talking about people who weren’t there and no one else knew.  I told them a few times to talk about something else, but they kept coming back around to people nobody knew.

“If you don’t like it then you talk about something,” they told me.

“All right,” I said. “This is Easter.  Easter is the anniversary of what event?”

“The crucifixion,” the youngest one of us said.

“Right.  And do you know what happened to Christ after he died?”

I don’t know.  He went to heaven?”

“No, he didn’t.  He went to hell.  He spent three days in hell, and then he came back to check in with his followers.”

“Okay…”

“You know what he did in hell?” Continue reading

Hoboing Around (sticky)

Conrad Cook is a hobo all around the U.S.  This is my “serious” blog, which gets considerably less attention than OneWetSneaker, my science fiction and text game blog.

There are advantages and disadvantages to living on the ground.  Hoboing around is what I’m doing for the foreseeable future.  It’s really not a bad way to live.  I suggest people try it.

HOBO TIP – Most modern camping equipment is useless

HOBO TIP: Cold night sleeping with a soaked sleeping back and a tarp: turn the setup inside-out. The tarp will keep most of the moisture off you. Anything dry — coats, etc — between you and the tarp.

In general, most modern camping equipment is useless. It’s for middle Americans to spend a weekend of nice weather outside.  Middle Americans don’t camp out if the weather’s bad, and of course when the weather is good you really need nothing.  A blanket and bug repellent will do.

Same goes for warm clothes, too.  Warm clothes these days are not like they were when I was a kid — just as furniture has gotten cheap, warm clothing these days is flimsy and not insulating.  I talked to one lady who would only buy warm clothes in Canada.  (conspiracy theory:  Shoddy winter clothing being foisted on the public to minimize resistance to Global Warming.)

ATM kiosks are ideal places to spend a night during weather, but there is the little problem of police being very protective of them.